I'm sure we've all been asked this question at some point in our adult lives. I have been on the receiving end of this loaded question and have sometimes found myself guilty of repeatedly asking it to close family and friends. As human beings, we tend to put an immense amount of pressure on ourselves to accomplish certain goals with, Be married by age x and have x amount of children by the time I'm age x, as one of them. As we grow and mature, we start to develop our own sense of self and our goals begin to change. For some people or couples, having children may not be a part of their story, whether by choice or because of reasons out of their control. Asking the question, "So when are you having kids?" lends itself to the idea that this is something we SHOULD be accomplishing in our lives.